Have you made a major life decision but too scared to tell your family or friends? I can help you.
We’re faced with thousands of decisions each day (what to wear today/where to eat etc.), but rarely does one come along that completely redefines your life.
The gravity of these decisions is what makes them so difficult to speak about with loved ones. But, with integrative life coaching, you can make this process easier and get the support you need to move on to the next chapter of your life.
Why can explaining a major life decision be so difficult?
Explaining a life decision can be emotive, confusing and challenging, even if it’s something that’ll make you happier.
Major life decisions have the potential to re-define your relationships with friends and family. Your choice might create physical distance between you, or challenge their preconceptions about life.
These are the types of life decision I’m talking about:
- Moving house
- Making a career change
- Getting married
- Coming out
- Having a baby
- Stopping medical treatment
How should I approach explaining my life decision to friends and family?
Setting the scene
Don’t delay having this talk. If it’s a time sensitive situation, like moving house, tell your friends and family early on to give them time to adjust, ask you questions, conduct research and consult their own network of confidants.
But, try to avoid overwhelming them. Christmas, a wedding or birthday might seem like the ideal opportunity, but tensions are likely to be high already, and someone may feel that you’re trying to steal their thunder.
When you have this conversation, do it in a place that’s comfortable and welcoming for everyone. This will help them open up and express their thoughts honestly.
Taking them on your journey
Help them understand your thought process by taking them on your journey with you.
Tell them: “I’ve wanted to do this for a long time but have been too [scared/hard up/unmotivated] to act”, or “I had to make a quick decision, but it’s based on long-held beliefs.”
Explain what your life will look like on the other side, and how this will make you happier.
Your decision might send them on a journey of their own. Try to be empathetic, tell them how they influenced your decision and take difficult questions for what they are – a sign that they care.
Balancing emotions with practicality
Show you’ve thought this life decision through by explaining pros and cons from both a practical and emotional standpoint.
Help them to understand you’re not the first person to make this decision, and give them examples of how others have succeeded after making the same choice.
Then, tell them about your precise plans, and the avenues of support you’ll be using to make them happen.
How integrative life coaching can make this process easier
Explaining a major life decision to your family and friends is never easy. But, with my 1:1 support, you can make sense of the decision-making process and begin to see the light on the other side of this difficult conversation.
Sign up for a free, no obligation introductory Skype session by filling in the form at the top of this page and find out how I can help you open up to your loved ones.