Anger management can improve your health and wellbeing mentally, physically and spiritually.
Anger is your body's way of demanding immediate action to right a perceived wrong. It plays on your animal instincts, giving you symptoms similar to the 'fight or flight' response.
For some people, though, anger can become a burden. Uncontrolled anger can break up relationships, spell the end of jobs and even get people in trouble with the law. It's linked to health conditions too, like depression, anxiety and heart disease.
Not only should you learn to handle anger in a way that doesn't hurt anyone, you need to find a way to repurpose that energy towards something productive.
What defines your anger?
Anger manifests itself in three main ways:
- Aggressively: Verbal aggression, or even physical violence towards those around you.
- Passive aggressively: Subtle digs and surreptitious behaviour that's meant to cause harm.
- Passively: Bottling up feelings, ignoring the situation and even self-harming.
Whichever one affects you most, the root of this anger might well have something to do with your current life circumstances, your genes and upbringing, or events in your past you're yet to come to terms with.
Anger management can help calm those fires
Anger management can strengthen your relationships with the people you love and help you achieve your true potential. It's an ongoing process that I can support you through with integrative life coaching techniques.
In the meantime, here's an introduction to some on-the-spot things you can do to avoid a blowout:
- Everyone reacts differently when they're angry. Be aware of your warning signs (like an increased heart rate or clenched fist) and try to avoid letting your feelings escalate.
- Let go of angry thoughts ("It's not fair that they...") and accusatory phrases ("You never listen to me"). They'll only set you on the wrong path.
- Try to calm yourself. Concentrate on your breathing (slowly, with longer exhales than inhales) to clear your mind and reduce your heart rate. Counting silently to 10 also gives you space to think rationally.
- If all else fails, remove yourself from the situation altogether. It might hurt now, but you could save yourself some serious explaining later on.
Ultimately, the odd flair-up might well be a cover for something deeper. Only you can say for sure if this is something you need professional help with.
Here are some of the ways you can address your anger in the longer term:
- Exercise: Running, swimming, yoga and other exercises can help reduce stress and release feel-good chemicals.
- Health: Getting enough sleep, avoiding stimulants and consuming a healthy, balanced diet can help you stabilise your mood.
- Communication: Talking through your feelings with a friend or family member can give you a fresh, trusted perspective on life and may uncover the root of your anger.
- Creativity: Writing, painting or playing an instrument can release tension and provide an additional outlet for your emotions.
Anger shouldn't define you. Turn all that simmering energy into productivity, and seize the opportunity to improve your life and move closer to inner peace and serenity.
Sign up for a free introductory life coaching session and discover how I can help you dampen those fires, make sense of your feelings and regain inner serenity.